Negative thinking

How easy is it to get bogged down in negative thoughts and feelings? How detrimental to our well being is it when we piss and moan about the bad things going on in life every single day?

A simple yet powerful quote from the late Wayne Dyer

“Each morning, when you open your eyes, think only three things: thank you, thank you, thank you.”

I love this; it’s so easy to slip into the negative self-talk, that self-talk has energy. What you send out there comes straight back at you. So to open your eyes and the first thing you add into the quantum field are thankful vibrations it’s like an instant hit of a morning espresso.

You can feel the good vibes lifting you. It’s a much more beautiful place to live with a heart full of gratitude than a heart full of hate. For a lot of people, it’s much easier to be pulled to negativity than it is positivity. Some people are more naturally positive, and some are generally more negative. If you are in the negative camp, it doesn’t mean you have to be forever, it just means it may take more training to reach a more positive mindset.

Negativity Bias

In psychology, they talk of: “negativity bias”: Your brain is built with a higher sensitivity to unpleasant news.

I get this, check out the newspapers each morning. It’s rare to see much good news. It is usually very dramatic. Switch on any news channel, and you find the same.

How about soap operas? In the UK we have a show called Eastenders. It wouldn’t be a Christmas special without a family feud or a fight. It’s all negative. You can see why most walk through life hypnotised to this state of being.

It’s much more fulfilling being thankful and living with a grateful heart. When I’ve spoken with others about this, I can sometimes meet some resistance. Some have said “How could you be thankful if you have terminal cancer?” or “What if your child has gone missing?” or similar.

This is science not woo-woo

Listen, anyone who knows me well, knows I’m not woo-woo. Being thankful isn’t about being delusional; it’s about lifting your levels of vibrations even when you are in the pit of despair. Some examples of some tough times I have gone through while still being thankful include:

  • losing my mum to breast cancer – losing a supportive grandmother to my children and asking why my mum had to go at the early age of 59?
  • being left to support a 19-year-old sister with severe learning difficulties and autism


These types of moments test your strength. It isn’t easy; I had plenty of moments of despair and shed loads of negative moments. But through all of these times when I could have gone to the trenches, I did pull myself back. I did give thanks that my sister now has the opportunity to grow and become more independent. I’m thankful for the love my mum showed to my children for the time she was here. I’m grateful for the love and support she showed me through all my life. Even when I was at my lowest, my mum would be there bringing my spirits up, because my mum believed in me even when I didn’t believe in myself.

If there is one thing you can do, which will have one of the most significant impacts on your life, it’s learning to be thankful even when you think you have nothing to be grateful for.

Till next time, take care.

All the best,